The courtship: the ladies, knights and their weapons.
The courtship has a scientific basis so unaware of that requirement becomes a key instrument of nature that is the production of diversity. For us moderns, however, has a different quality than the scientific one, is a dance of games between two people is interested in at least one other. Already Ovid, called the "illusory tenerorum cantorum, playful poet of tender love, he spoke extensively on this subject in" 'Ars Amatoria, "saying that love is like the army: each lover is a soldier, and Cupid has his camps. He dispenses advice to men and women about the techniques of seduction and, once found love, he offered advice on how to maintain it, art and more difficult.
In his Heroides, wrote the most beautiful love letters of heroines to their lovers, twenty in all. Among the most beautiful there is one of Dido to Aeneas, of Helen to Paris, Ariadne to Theseus, Odysseus to Penelope. Ovid, despite being prepared on the subject, is just one of our antenato.Oggi the court, love understood in its broader concept, has changed in its very essence. In our imaginary
remains, however, the figure of the medieval knight who with ways in music, sang the 'love to his woman, perhaps the most beautiful of all of the selected technique to ensnare their prey. My paternal grandfather courted so my grandmother in the thirties. For a long time, late at night, stopped under her window to sing the best songs of his repertoire. Not satisfied, he brought with him other artists, so that everyone could hear her love for Philip. My grandmother capitulated under his warbling, and to give respite to the uproar in the evening, and because in the meantime had got to know this man so tough and sensitive at the same time.
Today we are in another world, and the hit and run quickly out of fashion and the verb is to consume. The modes are brisk, eloquent. Yet courtship is a necessary approach in the whole animal world, is a ritual that no one can escape, but we're good at change even genetics. Yes, because today is part of the epilogue. The first thing you have to like it and then not necessarily be to force the man to take the first step often is the woman of today. The technology allows us to be in real time everywhere at all hours. We can explore, spy, knowing something unthinkable even on a person and discovering his world. Today the man has the patience of a time and, therefore, adopt technical series now ask whether the choice he wants to share with his physical ... you got it, and take care that is not vulgar, but a grand strategy. If the lady on duty did not agree, the modern knight, would rise to another girl! The question shot as soon as you know, you need to understand if there is no hope in this! Imagine if he had asked Beatrice Dante wanted to go to bed with her instead of writing rhymes and see it as the Madonna!
The question is legitimate and I ask you: "You can start from the physicality in a relationship without knowing each other, or know only a secondary aspect to the physical pleasure?
The world of relations between the sexes is described extensively on pages of all newspapers are full of letters of all types and which describe the tastes and techniques apply to all age groups, there is no difference, they know the children, the mature and seventies with a pricey option: children are sensitive, are tenacious, are the mature in a hurry, while the seventies, having nothing to lose, make it a world to the rescue. If a man wants to be informed about women, women's magazines to read, so that the approach will be more facile.La the simplest technique is now a text message with which it is permissible to everything: contacts, meet, explore and leave. The phone has simplified many things, we avoid many pathos, as well entrenched behind our box, we avoid looking into the eyes and are able to say everything.
The court is best to discover both the beauty of the person and his inner world. Sometimes discover his hidden world can be a greater pleasure than the physical space and private giving to the physical beauty is a real shame.
But the court is made for real and is just a refinement. The court is very slow and continuous, never abrupt, to burn in two stages! The court shall use all means true, of not ephemeral: the flowers, a card, an invitation, a surprising revelation to confuse, to insist, are the best means. The letter or at least a written takes precedence over all other forms and literature there are several cases that we confirm this. Those who rely only to text messages, to encrypted or words flying from the pages of social networking can never be convincing. The concept of the court is to gain reassurance that the lady, who proposed to her is the right person.
It must be said that today the roles are interchangeable, that courtship can from both, but a minimum of manners wants the man, if only for its natural predisposition to this dance of conquest. Keep
then over time the same attitude is most convincing as well as more reassuring. The court is true for a woman who refuses to be charmed by all and sundry.
Today the real problem is that you do not have much need to look into his eyes as to be in close physical contact, much closer than that! All were anxious to consume: the moment, youth, pleasure, beauty.
course also the customs and attitudes women sometimes leave it open-minded man with no defense, so they do not have choices about what to do, if only to give prestige to the gene that is on his side and take home the trophies of his achievements.
True love starts from the head is there evil alchemy that arise that do not leave the mixture to understand what is required to fall at the stroke of the arrow. Both men and women love to be courted, that's the truth, will be the pride, narcissism, the fear of time passing, that it takes nicely courted!
And us mere mortals we will always be in style handbook as the key to understanding the type of courtship suitable for us, of who has priority in our hearts, the choice of how it happens or who you are deceived, and closed in pure chemistry our genes! And it's appropriate to say Pascal's maxim: "The heart has its reasons which reason knows nothing."
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